[HELP] [discussion] I’m considering a move and need some input on the potential living arrangements for my dog.
Warning: loooooong post
I’m 23(f) and have a male 2.5 year old Australian Cattle Dog mix who I’ve had for a year and a half. I got him from a rescue organization in Utah who in turn pulled him from an overworked kennel in New Mexico so we don’t know a ton about his past before me. He’s my best friend and keeps me out of depressive hazes and is trained to help me with anxiety attacks. He’s also my first dog. I’m considering a move but I want to be sure that it would be an good fit for my good boy. So I’m going to give the details on our current living situation and the potential new one and would love your thoughts and comments.
About my dog: I think he has generally less energy than his breed fellows or even other herding dogs. He’s a pretty chill, snuggly couch potato most of the time, but loves his twice daily jogs and we go to the off leash dog park about once a week. We’ve done several training classes together because it’s kinda fun and because I never want to be THAT person with an ill mannered dog. He’s super willing to please and takes to the training very, very well. He is kennel trained. I’ve found he does get a bit wound up or anxious if he’s totally free roam while I’m at work so I kennel him once every two days and he’s seems much better for it. He loves his kennel and goes in there on his own often. He’s spoiled with the best food and tons of toys and he’s allowed on the furniture. He is rather protective of me and will bark when someone comes to the door, but I’ve trained him to quiet down quickly when I tell him to. He does not like men in his space. He pretty much only trusts my brother who comes over a lot but whenever I have other guy friends over my dog growls at them at first then will only accept pets very cautiously; he’ll go to his kennel or his “place” when he’s uncomfortable as those are his safe spaces and I don’t let people touch or interact with him when he puts himself there. Interestingly, he doesn’t bark or growl at people (even men) or dogs when we are out walking or at the park – he pretty much keeps to himself but if another dogs wants to play or a person approaches he is very friendly. It’s just at home that he gets shy and territorial.
Current situation: I’m living in a townhouse by myself for $635 a month (owned by my parents – relevant). I’m moved there right after I got my bachelors degree and just before getting my dog. Basically I move there SO I could get my dog. There are three levels – basement with bedroom & bathroom; main floor with living room, kitchen, laundry, bathroom; top floor with two bedrooms, two bathrooms and a loft area. There is a shared backyard and a patch of grass in front by the driveway – HOA has strict leash rules. My dog is not allowed in the basement because we sometimes have a renter down there, but he has free roam of the main floor and my room upstairs most of the time. I ended up getting a job back in the college town I used to live in and where I live now is 45 minutes from where I work. So on average my dog is alone for 9.5-10hrs a day. I have a neighbor who lets him out to use the bathroom if I’m going to be late at work.
Potential new place: Townhouse with the exact same layout and yard situation, but back in the college town. Rent for me would be $425/month and I would have the basement bed/bath to myself. I would have four roommates in the bedrooms upstairs – all girls still going to school. One of the roommates is my cousin and the others are her friends and I trust her taste so I’m sure we’ll all get along. My cousin is the one who reached out to offer me the spot. They are all okay with my dog and the landlord is making an allowance for me as my dog has letters from two of my doctors and our trainer supporting that he is a well trained ESA. It is basically 3 minutes from where I work.
Pros: It would be cheaper, it’s MUCH closer to work, it would allow me to move out of the place my parents own which would be really good for my mental health as we don’t have the best relationship right now and they’ve been manipulating the fact that they “let” me live there (never mind that I DO pay rent to them).
Cons: My potential roommates want me to keep my dog totally restricted to the basement, they don’t want him in the common living space on the main floor.
I’m thinking that I want to move to this new place for the pros listed above. As for the con of keeping my dog restricted to a much smaller space I’m thinking it will be okay for the following reasons: I will still keep up our twice daily jogs and there is another dog park pretty close to us that we could go to. Since it is so close to my work and I have a full hour lunch break, I could go home midday everyday for lunch and my dog and I could do a quick walk then as well. So he would not be alone for nearly as long as he is now. Also I’m hopeful that once my roommates meet him and see how good he is and hear more about how he helps me, maybe they will be okay with him in the common areas with more reasonable restrictions – like maybe he won’t be allowed on the furniture and will have to stay in my room when I’m at work and will never be allowed upstairs to their rooms, but otherwise he can just be with me anywhere in the house that I am.
Am I being unreasonable and rationalizing the situation? Would it be totally mean to keep my dog stuck in my room most of the time? Or do you think he will be okay given how often we go outside and given that I’d have more time with him at home?
I would really appreciate your thoughts. Thank you!
Edited to add that the contract won’t start until January and the landlord doesn’t need a firm commitment until November, so I have lots of time to decide.
Submitted September 20, 2018 at 03:22PM by manyfandomz
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